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There are some books you never tire of reading. You read them endless number of times and yet, each time, there’s something new that you learn. One of the foremost on the list of such books has to be Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages of Singles. With deep insight and tenderness, the author adapts his famous 5 love languages to suit the exclusive challenges of the singles community.
People who’ve never been married will have concerns that are quite different from those who’ve lost a partner through death or divorce. For the single parents, life is quite something else. Whichever the category of singles you fit into, there’s something for everyone in this book.
Whether you’re single by choice or by chance, there are a lot of issues that can crop up in your relationships with people around. Just like married folks. Most of these, Gary says, arise due to speaking different languages. Don’t even bother to try and counter that one – with over 30 years of experience in counseling married couples; he’s bang on target with that statement.
As you take in the book, you’re going to realize that adopting the five languages is indeed going to make a vast difference to the depth of your relationships. To analyze your love language, score yourself on the test given in the book – this will help you grasp the idea faster than reading the theory. You can be innovative with this test. Try doing the test from another person’s perspective, see what you come up with. Then ask that person to do it and compare the results with yours – it could be an eye opener as to how much you still have to discover.
As you read, you’ll catch yourself nodding as you find a concept that was vague in your mind given a definite structure. You’ll find yourself going over memories you didn’t know were there, trying to see why you did what you did. Or wondering about what you could have done different. As the author himself admits, more often than not, we get attracted to someone whose love language is different from ours. That’s when you’ll wish Gary Chapman had written this book earlier, so you could have been saved all the heartbreak. But you’ll also thank him – for now, you have the means to understand not just yourself but others, too.
Some people may feel that most of the anecdotes concentrate on the romantic aspects of relationships. But if you just look beyond the obvious, you’ll come to realize one thing. Romantic or otherwise, relationships are all about communication. It’s a fact – when you are actually involved in a situation, you lose perspective. Yet, when you contemplate on it as happening to someone else, the grays fade away and everything becomes crystal clear. This is probably the purpose of the anecdotes the book is peppered with. After all, you don’t need to be tutored to respond in a particular way; what you need is a guide to help you analyze faulty communication – a purpose the book accomplishes with finesse.
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